Happy Father’s Day

Hi Friends…

From time to time, I have ‘guest bloggers’ and today I asked this ‘Father’ to write what he thought about Father’s Day.  It is a perspective I wish so many more people would embrace.  I want to thank him for his contribution and his ability to step outside of the ‘traditional publicized’ holiday to add a sincere, heartfelt explanation for what Father’s Day meant to him.

Dad & Child

“Maybe this day should be called Fathers are Happy Day? To me, Father’s Day isn’t about the acknowledgement of being a ‘dad’ from your children, spouse or friends. It’s not about gifts, cards, telephone calls, or emails and texts. Honestly, I received none of those. But what I did get is the wonderful feeling of being able to reflect on how wonderful it is to BE a father. I experienced so much joy, sorrow, happiness, worry, and frustration, yet, at the end of the day, I would do it again. At 55, I would do it now! Start again! I believe Father’s Day is the opportunity to tell your children how wonderful of a life they gave you. You gave to your kids all that time, knowing it took away from your business or your personal success and rarely did your children even know it. The late nights putting together the toys, building the tree-house, going to the games, teaching, coaching, training, comforting, providing, and loving….even from a distance. You see, the day belongs to dads, not for them to be revered as much as all dads should be thanking ‘God’, the ‘universe’, the ‘powers that be’, to have been given the opportunity to experience the lives he has created. Fathers should be happy, regardless of the circumstances of what life brings, not just for all he has done for his children but for all he has done for himself!”

Thank you for this perspective!  Being a ‘Father’ to a child comes in all forms whether you are a birth Father or not.  Many of you no longer have your children in your life for whatever reason- divorced, or being estranged from them, but the ability to take a day to remember the special moments with gratitude are gravely important for keeping your world positive!

I hope you all had a “Father’s are Happy Day!!!”


Neurofeedback and Autism: One Child’s Miraculous Story

autism and neurofeedback

“Yes, we see miracles all the time. Your daughter is experiencing one of them”.

The most gratifying aspect of being a neurofeedback professional is witnessing complete – almost miraculous – transformations in the lives of your clients.

One such client is an eight-year-old little girl. She attends a special school for children with multiple psychological disorders and severe behavioral issues. I provide NeurOptimal neurofeedback sessions there once a week.

We first met two weeks ago. Her mother explained to me that her daughter was autistic and suffered from severe failure anxiety. She typically avoided eye-contact with strangers and would not shake hands on a first meeting.

Her mother and I went to her classroom and asked her to come with us for her first neurofeedback session. Seeing her mother, the girl agreed to come with us.  I kneeled down in front of her, and gave her my hand; she took it and told me her name. I heard her mother whisper, “wow!”.

Hooking her up with the neurofeedback machine with the NeurOptimal sensors for the first time was challenging – she was afraid to be touched on the earlobes.  I allowed her to attach the sensors herself after demonstrating on her pet cat.

During the brain training session, she watched part of a movie called “Spetter”  –  a story about a Dolphin. The session went well and when it was over, she smiled, looked at her mother and said: “NICE!”

The family went home for the weekend the came back the next Friday.

Same girl, same school, same movie, Part II.

Her mother couldn’t stop talking about the changes they’d witnessed in their daughter the week before. The Saturday morning after the first neurofeedback session, she and her husband were awakened early by the sound of a child whistling in their garden.

They went outside to find their daughter dancing in their sun-covered-garden, whistling tunes. When the girl saw her parents, she threw them a smile and said: “Look, there is the sun, and now I can hear the birds. The dance has been stuck in my head but now it is free”.

The mother looked at her husband when he asked: “Could this be possible? After one neurofeedback session?” She said: “Yes, it must be! Nothing else has changed.”

When the mother told me this story, I said, “Yes, we see miracles all the time. Your daughter is experiencing one of them”.

About the Trainer:


NeurOptimal Trainer Hannie Ruinen first tried NeurOptimal neurofeedback on herself 12 years ago to mitigate severe postpartum depression. The experience was so transformative that she integrated NeurOptimal into her life coaching practice. Today, her neurofeedback training clients include special needs children, professional ballet dancers as well as members of the Netherlands Royal Concert Orchestra. She lives in Roermond, Netherlands with her husband and three children.



Reposted with permission from http://www.zengar.com

Being a Neuroptimal neurofeedback practitioner in The Netherlands, I can only emphasize that neuroptimal is the most useful tool to give kids with Autism a more comfortable life. I offer neuroptimal at a family doctors’ health care centre AND at a school for kids with special needs. That school is the best place where I can offer my service as a trainer. The kids at this school are all being diagnosed/double diagnosed with ADD/ADHD/Autism/dyslexia/FAS…..
This story is just one of the hundreds and hundreds experiences all over the world…