It astounds me how many people ‘require’ their children, parents, friends, co-workers to be the BEST at everything they first attempt.
“These grades aren’t high enough”… “I thought you would have put more into this project”… “well, in my day, we would never had done it that way” or “I am so disappointed in you for not making this work”.
There is a principle that is used in business called, The Pareto principle (also known as the 80–20 rule), it states that, for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes.
It can be applied in other fields as well…meaning that 80% of your feedback when raising a child, working with a co-worker or personally attempting a new project, should be positive praise, however, 20% (although, not negative remarks) must be teaching or training, otherwise the individual will not learn from their mistakes.
If they are ALWAYS praised then no new knowledge will occur if they are ALWAYS torn apart or ridiculed and perfection is expected but never rewarded then nothing new is learned.
It is my intention today that I share Pareto’s principle in hopes that today you see the 80:20 in all that you do! Give yourself a break and understand it probably will take 80% of your attempts to accomplish your goal.
Give your children a break…perhaps if they are not getting those straight A’s they are assimilating knowledge in other areas and it will come to them.
Look at these famous people and how many mistakes it took them before they accomplished their goals!
Today as always…LOADS of energy to you!
Just another thought from Dr. Lise’