We sometimes don’t even remember being frustrated enough that we used ‘words’ that hurt…or that our little ‘teasing’ could make an impression that would last a lifetime on the people we love the most…
We have a big responsibility when we give birth to these little people that will become the future leaders of this world. The things I would love for everyone to teach their children;
1. Respect one another, say kind things to show you care NOT to prove you are right or the ‘parent’
2. Teach your children NO one is better than another. They ALL deserve your respect, love and trust.
3. Think of HOW your words and actions will affect someone before using them.
4. Only use what you need…save for others or a rainy day, you may need those resources later
5. Always remember to say what you ‘feel’ as long as it honors yourself and honors another.
6. TRUST that your child knows how to do a task, and if they need guidance along the way, that is what you are there for! When we do not trust their abilities, they do not either!
7. Make sure they know and understand their safety is your number one concern, even over their mistakes…you would rather help them through one mistake and SAVE them from making another to ‘cover-up’ their initial mistake!
8. Use the 80/20 Rule! Giving them 100% positive reinforcement will NOT teach them that some things are wrong! But only pointing out their faults will not give them confidence! So 80/20… 80% POSITIVE reinforcement and 20% correction words, (in an understanding way, we weren’t born knowing it all either!) 🙂
9. Teach your child to care for their stuff but to share, holding on to everything our whole life makes us dependent on our ‘stuff’, yet not caring for our stuff makes us feel as if the world is disposable!
10. Yelling mean things, saying derogatory words will not help your child to learn to be kind (even to you)! You are raising the person that will care for you as an elder adult…remember to treat them as you wish to be treated!
11. Surround yourself and your family with supportive people. Your children will perpetuate this group of people as well, marrying a person they can live with for the rest of their lives and be happy raising your grandchildren!
12. Help your children see the good in others, not raising them to be ‘judgmental’ of others, always finding the bad is addictive!
13. Remember the difference between being ‘witty’ and being ‘sarcastic’. Sarcasm is like watching movies…it should be rated and only used when age-appropriate, otherwise, the children try using sarcasm and it sounds rude, and disrespectful. They can be totally misunderstood and it comes across as a behavior issue instead.
14. Always be aware of what you are ‘allowing’ your child to witness, whether it is in a movie, another family or at home. The ‘appropriate’ movie rating doesn’t mean it is appropriate to watch! The ‘craze’ in movies is to make them something a parent will want to sit through, so they have subtle sexual innuendo’s, sarcasm, violence and all enveloped in humor, making it look as if it is a good and appropriate action! These scenes will ‘stick’ with your child forever.
15. Always look at what you are feeding your child…is it good food? If it comes in a box, can, or frozen…think twice, try to always use fresh food and create FUN ways of eating what you might consider boring foods. They may LOVE it!!!
Life is fun…wake-up every morning saying and thinking FUN thoughts 🙂 and remember to tell them you love them…
Thank you for raising YOUR children to love and tolerate ALL people no matter their race, religion, gender, political view, sexual orientation or intelligence levels. We all deserve to love and be loved!